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How to involve the children on your wedding day.

Sharon Allam • 20 September 2024

I want to involve my children in my wedding ceremony (Hurrah!!! Fab idea!) 

Children at wedding ceremonies

Weddings are joyous occasions, and for many couples, including children in the ceremony can make the day even more special. Whether they are your own children, stepchildren, or children from your extended family, involving them in your wedding can create lasting memories and strengthen family bonds. As a wedding celebrant, I’m here to guide you on how to seamlessly include children in your wedding ceremony while ensuring a beautiful and meaningful experience.


Why Include Children in Your Wedding Ceremony?


🌻Strengthening Family Bonds 🌻


Including children in your wedding ceremony is a wonderful way to acknowledge the importance of family. It helps to create a sense of unity and belonging, especially in blended families. By involving children, you’re not just celebrating your love for each other but also the love within your new family unit.


🌻Creating Lasting Memories 🌻


Children will remember their role in your wedding for years to come. Whether they are walking down the aisle, reading a poem, or participating in a special ritual, these moments will be cherished memories for both you and them. It’s a fantastic way to make them feel special and included in the day.


🌻Adding Joy and Energy 🌻


Children bring an infectious joy and energy to any celebration. Their excitement can enhance the atmosphere of your wedding, making it even more vibrant and fun. Their unique perspectives and spontaneous moments can create delightful surprises throughout the day!


Just a few ideas on how to involve children in your wedding ceremony


🌻Ring Bearers and Flower Girls 🌻


Traditional roles like ring bearers and flower girls are classic ways to include children in your wedding. These roles not only make them feel important but also add a charming touch to your ceremony. You can even let them pick out their outfits (beware it could be welly boots, tutus and superhero costumes πŸ˜‚) making them feel even more engaged in the process.


🌻Reading Poems or Vows 🌻


Consider having a child read a poem or a special message during the ceremony. This can be a touching moment that adds a personal touch to your vows. If they are older, they might even want to share their thoughts on love or family, making it a memorable part of the ceremony.


🌻Unity Ceremonies 🌻


Incorporating children into unity ceremonies can symbolize the coming together of your families. For example, you could have a sand ceremony where each family member pours a different colour of sand into one container, representing the blending of lives. This not only creates a beautiful visual but also a meaningful symbol of unity.


🌻Special Roles in the Processional 🌻


Let children take part in the processional by walking down the aisle as part of the bridal party. They can carry signs, scatter flower petals, or even hold a “Here Comes the Bride” banner. This adds a playful element to the ceremony and makes them feel involved in the celebration.


🌻Involving Them in Speeches and Toasts 🌻


Encourage children to participate in speeches or toasts, if they feel comfortable. This could be a fun opportunity for them to share their thoughts on love or family, and it can add a humorous and heartfelt touch to the celebration.


Considerations When Involving Children


While involving children in your wedding can be incredibly rewarding, it’s important to consider their comfort levels. Make sure they are prepared for their roles, and keep things flexible in case they feel shy or overwhelmed on the day. Having an adult assigned to look after them can help ease any anxiety and ensure they enjoy the celebration. If it helps, let’s have a fun rehearsal so I’m a familiar face.


Including children in your wedding ceremony is a beautiful way to strengthen family bonds and create lasting memories. As a wedding celebrant, I can help you craft a ceremony that incorporates your children in meaningful ways, ensuring that everyone feels included and cherished on your special day.


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I am an experienced Bedfordshire based wedding celebrant, with a  warm, supportive & friendly style.  I'm happy to travel UK wide and I'm always delighted to chat weddings.


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